When we are in the depths of "their addictions" we look at coincidences as fate telling us things will work out. Life will be good, our love will be strong and they will become what we hope they will be. And, in the same realm as the glass is half empty, these same coincidences remind us of what hurt us in the first place...and continues to remind us of the pain. I am learning that "fate" is how much I believe in myself. Because I am the only one that can determine my own destiny. And that will always be a work in progress.