Searching,
I have told this story before...this time is for you. Back when I was struggling with should I or shouldn't I make my son move out I was attending meetings and I heard that doing nothing can be doing something. If you don't know wait. Doing nothing can be an action. So I actively did nothing...because I didn't know what was right or wrong.
One day during a conversation with a non alanon friend I had my answer. He had to go. And from that moment on I knew the answer.
Still I did nothing. I allowed the circumstances to unfold and in the end he left. And my HP in all His wisdom had him pack and go while I wasn't there.
This was my first true "moment of clarity" in the program. My first spiritual experience in Alanon and even today it awes me.
To some it may seem mundane, but to me it was God and the program working exactly the way it should.
Hugs,
JT