Thanks for this...
I just had a call from his sister because I haven't been in contact with him for three weeks and he texts me as though we are still together, writes snail mail letters (I left it unread in the mailbox) and is now telling his sister to check on me. I don't know who to trust so this forum is a Godsend!
I told his sister that he hurt me so badly when he continued to make me red and embarrassed on purpose and her reply was - "Well, sometimes it's fun and exhilarating"
I do not agree. I think your assessment of sociopath is spot-on. I am seeing things so much clearer now. Of course, I still have to dig myself out of the emotional hole I dug for myself and that has been exhausting...