[QUOTE=MadeOfGlass;3608433]Hello again silentscout,
It's my personal opinion that as soon as someone is connected in a relationship to an A, we are all deemed "codependent" and need therapy, and then you get wack jobs like that shrink that is proclaiming you have control issues. Now just wait a minute...!
So true. Although I did see myself in many of the roles portrayed by the OP, I have to agree with this as well. What else are we to do? I don't want to give up on my husband after only one year of his addiction. I'd like to see if we can get through this, but with all the lies, I'm certainly not taking his word for it. So what else am I to do, but search for clues that he's using, clues that it really is time to throw in the towel? Then again, I can see how it becomes an endless cycle, when clue after clue are revealed, and it still just doesn't seem right to end it. I hope I will be strong enough to know in my heart that if he isn't ready after all this, he won't be ready for a long time.