Amy - for me one of the most freeing moments was when my exah had another fender-bender car accident just a block or so from our house because he drove under the influence and of course he said he was in horrible pain! He wanted me to take him to the ER. I calmly said, "I am unable to do that. It's not a healthy thing for me to do."
He tried to start an arguement "What? You don't think I'm hurt? You won't let me go?"
I replied "I never said any of those things, I simply said I am unavailable to take you, You are a grown man, if you feel you need to go to the ER, you need to make other arrangements to go"
I left him there filling out the paperwork with the sheriff's dept - still to the day don't know if he went or not - He was already taking quite a bit of meds - so he could have just doubled/trippled up on what he was taking ~
But the best thing was I refused to be part of the insanity!!
Good for you to do the same for you ~
PINK HUGS to all
Rita