Jessica
I don't mean by his drinking, I've come to terms that I cannot change that. I'm talking about him being there for me emotionally, physically. I know he won't/can't be and I'm insane for thinking I can convince him otherwise - so HOW DO I STOP????
Sorry to be blunt, but this begs the question "What's in this relationship for you?" Even in a relationship where drugs and alcohol have no influence, living with someone who is emotionally and physically unavailable is living in a vacuum. There comes a day when we have to decide if this is how we want to spend the rest of our lives.
You have options, you have a lot of life to still live. Is this how you want to live it? Take time, think about what you want, and then go for it.
Hugs
Ann