What are you getting out of it?
Just last night, a recovery addict wanted to stay at my home for a couple of weeks until she found a new apartment. I said NO, with only a little guilt which is progress for me.
In the past, I would never have been able to say no! I am not sure I would have wanted to. I would have believed I was being compassionate, kind and treating others as I would want to be treated if I was homeless.
Now, is the hard part! If I really look closely at my past behavior, there is far more to it. I would have said yes because I was "getting something out of it" without even realizing it. I think it would have given me a sense of self worth to help out a "damsel in distress," or maybe as a distraction from me or filling the need to be needed.
I would have believed my act of letting her stay here was soley an unselfish act. But I can see the truth now, I was getting something out of it.
In hindsight, I think I used to a rush or even a "high" to rescue or try and fix others. yikes!!
Please share any examples you can think of!!