I went to my first al-anon meeting this morning. I'm not a social person, and I don't like large groups, so I was kind of nervous. I knew I needed to do it, and I probably should have gone long ago.
I loved it. it was so enlightening. I expected everyone to be talking about their alcoholic, their experience with them, etc, but it was entirely focused on us, the ones who love/deal with the alcoholic. I haven't had any focus on me in so long, its been all about my husband for so long, that to be in a room full of people who know exactly how I'm feeling and what I'm going through was, well, kind of indescribable. it forced me to look at myself and realize I need to take care of me, and not just that, but I deserve it.
I really suggest going to a meeting, I really didn't want it to end.