I think of Steps 1 through 3 as the simple surrender of the words "Oh God, please help me" immediately followed by working my program. Step 3 is a daily step.
I recommend reading
One Day at a Time for June 17 and November 12. Also, slowly and carefully read the last paragraph on page 20 and the first one on page 21of
Al-Anon's Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions.
Try repeating this daily and often to switch the brain into the right gear: "Not mine, but Thy will be done." After all, "Humility is the underlying thought of the Twelve Steps 12." Page 31. The program is about humility in our relationship to God, other human beings and ourselves. It's about being the right size: knowing where we leave off, and where others and God begin. "Let Go and Let God" totally applies here, as it wraps in Steps 1 through 3:
When we put this slogan to work, we get out of the way. We let go of the problems, the need to know what will happen and when, the obsession with other people's choices, the thoughts and concerns that waste our time and energy because we cannot resolve them ourselves. And we let God take care of them. ... When an Al-Anon friend goes through a difficult time and we don't know how to show our support, all we need to do is to let them know we are available and to 'Let Go and Let God.' This slogan gives us permission to replace stress, worry, and suffering with serenity and faith. It's okay to relax and let life happen. We can rest assured that the answers, choices, actions, and thoughts we need will come to us when the time is right because we have placed them in the hands of our Higher Power." How Al-Anon Works, page 75.