I totally get that Lillamy. Good point!
If there were express permission (at least in Al-Anon) ALONG WITH a handy "travel guide" and available "tour guides" one could turn to, wouldn't that be liberating?:
Hey me, hey kids, hey family & friends, hey people, I have more than just the legal right (see right here) but I also went through the travel and tour guides specific to a marriage suffering from alcoholism/addiction. After doing so, the answer was clear to me (us). Divorce was not/was the answer. Leaving was/was not the answer.