I think you have to answer a few questions for yourself. . .
How well can you trust your in-laws? Do you believe they will protect your baby?
If you do go, can you go & relax, enjoy the time away
or
will you be in a constant state of worry, making yourself and those around unhappy?
will it be one of those things that if you don't go ~ you will hold it as a resentment against your AH for many years to come?
I only ask these questions because I have been in a similiar situation ~ what worked for me was to work out the safest situation I could for my children and then have a Plan B so that I could always come home if I needed to ~
Whatever you choose - I hope that you are able to have a peace about it ~
PINK HUGS,
Rita