Originally Posted by
thesoberhalf 
What prompted me to write this was- he us upstairs now... music blasting (subwoofer set up on his computer) and its thundering downstairs since the bedroom is right under it... i dont know what he is doing. this isnt him unless he drinks.
I'm sorry you are in this situation and glad you found SR.
I know how it feels when they are drunk and blasting music. I used to beg my XAH to stop the music (at 1, 2 and 3 am) it only made him play it longer and louder. The day I knew I had to get him out was when I went to check the kids before I went to bed - he was blasting music - and they were all asleep with their hands over their ears.
He is abusing you. This is unacceptable.