I found that the best way to live is to be in the Present.
My past is what it is. My experiences may be able to help another suffering alcoholic be able to relate to me so I can then share with him or her the solutions that I have found in AA.
It wasn't until I had worked the steps - especially after a thorough 4th Step and then the extensive 5th Step with my Sponsor - was when I realized that the heavy shame that I had been carrying for so long because of my past - and trying to self-medicate away - wasn't meant to define me. Because of AA, I've learned to own myself. I made a commitment to own my sobriety. And do anything I can to remain teachable.
I don't forget my past because I need to remember where I don't want to be. Just one sip could lead me back to that dark place. Not an option for me. Ever.
Every time I step out of my comfort zone to do the next right thing, it is always an opportunity for personal and spiritual growth.