puddinface, what a powerful realization to embrace!
That realization took me years to come to. My AS is 27 and I have released him to the care of the everlasting Spirit (God). I help him when he is helping himself only when that help does not break me emotionally or financially
He does not live with me, nor will he ever live with me. He functions in fits and starts. One low paying job after another. Debtors hot on his trail. Bounced checks. Car title loans and repossession. One step away from eviction.
But, he claims he is not a drug addict. I don't argue with him. I know he is.
I also realized that my health would not suffer because of his choices. Nor would my ability to embrace life and love.
May your journey with your AS be one in which YOU find sobriety. And, we will all pray for your AS's sobriety should he choose to attempt that path.
with compassion,
Peaceandgrace