Or "I need to go to my Al-Anon meetings on X, Y & Z days. I will get a babysitter for those days that you don't have our son. We can coordinate getting him to a weekly Alateen meeting. I'll gladly babysit our son, during your AA meetings, on the nights you want to go to AA. If there's a conflict, we can figure out a solution. Some places have joint meetings and some groups have babysitting available."