During early sobriety I just did not go if it involved drinking. The world did not end when I missed some of the usual get together's. Friends and family are important but not as important as me staying sober
Now everyone knows my house is dry during the holidays because I will allow nothing to endanger my sobriety. My son got married this summer and I told him I would be at the reception until I felt uncomfortable and he was find with that.
If I go somewhere else I make sure I have a way out. I drive separately and always go with someone who knows I am in recovery. They can get me my diet coke or soda from the bar.
It is all about choices and preparation