spouse recovery questions
My AH and I have been married for 19 years and have 4 kids. For the last 5, the drinking has spiraled although he kept his job. Last year, he began AA, got a sponsor and working the steps. He has been "stuck" on 4 for almost a year. He has relapsed a few times and has been sober for almost 2 months. Since July, sleeping is his new drug. Several days a week, he comes home and sleeps and avoids even speaking to us until the next morning when he leaves for work. For a while I thought he was still drinking, but I'm pretty sure that he is just checking out.
Is this typical? Is it likely to change? He deludes himself in thinking that he is a good parent/husband because he pays the bills. I think about leaving, but while that would work for me, what about my kids? His family has money and thinks his drinking problem is solved. Meanwhile, I'm trying to find insurance because our company dropped me over his license.
Would marriage counseling help?