Sounds like you are a garden variety alcoholic.
I have done so much damage that at 3 years of being sober my wife and kids still are unsure if they trust me. There is a lot more trust than there was but no way is it 100% The way I look at it is I drank and lied for 20 years maybe 20 years of being sober and honesty will make them trust me again. I do not worry about it much because all I have to be honest with is myself and my higher power and I believe eventual the trust of other will come.
For me AA worked and it can work for you. I go to lots of meeting, I believe in a higher power, I have a sponsor, I have tons of sober friends, I have a sponsee, I work the steps, read the literature and most importantly I do what I am told by people that have long term sobriety.
You can do it one day at a time like millions of others. "Any fool can stay sober for a day"