Attainment of humility is the ultimate goal IMO. I'm not a huge fan of the 12x12 book, but ido think it does a great job of explaining humility in the 6th and 7th steps.
Maybe you would find that useful.
As for forgiveness, there is one thing I have learned. Even if I am the forgiver and not the forgiven, I must receive forgiveness from God. I don't have the power to just decide to forgive and do it. I need that prayer time and meditation with my maker and when He sees fit, I will receive that forgiveness for the other person. It takes time sometimes, but you are keeping your communication with your higher power open. That's good. Keep sharing, examining yourself, praying and listening and all will be well.