What happens now....AH Detox
Okay so AH has FINALLY understood he needs medical attention to dry out...
This is a gift from the heavens. I guess patience is a key in this puzzle. I made a boundary and it took months but it worked.
It is so true that there was nothing I could do to make him realize he needed medical help. He was "delusional" in thinking he could control the withdrawals and the seizure. Lying to me...or himself that the seizure that put him in the ER last time was not from withdrawals....he says he didn't stop drinking beforehand, which I know is a lie. He even said he didn't have a seizure.....wtf
He wouldn't hear me. I have never seen such denial!! I realized he was just too scared to admit to himself he couldn't control the physical part. He wanted NO information as to documented symptoms and effects of withdrawal..NOTHING could be said to him about it. He was delusional.
I was MISERABLE knowing he could die this time...and stuck between having my boundary that I would not be here to watch him if he did it on his own. Could I really not be here with him to call an ambulance at the 24 hour mark?
It was a weird struggle....knowing that he wanted to do what he should and stop drinking, but unable to make peace with how.
He stopped drinking whiskey on his own, but the 15+ beers a day were unavoidable. It wasn't until a recovered friend challenged him to not drink a until a certain time of day that AH realized he couldn't do it physically.
SO this morning he decided to call a hospital (oddly enough I dreamt he died last night), but we aren't insured so options are limited. The only free detox is apparently a "nightmare" as he has heard from his group therapy peers....a cot in a room filled with cots. etc
Anyways, I am cautiously optimistic.....a little skeptical in many ways that this is actually going to happen. However, I need to know what happens now......I mean I guess they clean him up for three days and then what? Just continue the AA and therapy?
Is there anything as a spouse I should know for when he comes back home after only 3 days of drying out?
I know it sounds stupid to ask these questions...but they are for MY benefit not his. I have walked blindly into a lot of these alcohol/health issues and need to be aware of what happens for my sake and DD.
I am not asking specific medical advice. I will speak with a dr., but just wondering if there were any miscellaneous things that could be added from viewpoint of spouse.