I do understand my mother is going on 87, been doing the dance with her for 65 years.
My brother was always the golden child, however, since I no longer have contact with her, he is getting the brunt of the abuse.
I know that there is no way to repair the relationship with my mother, she is still drinking and as abusive and mean spirited as ever. She is toxic and I want nothing to do with her.
Hope your birthday was as special as you are!