One of my friends told me today (she's also a DV advocate at our local shelter) that when we're in situations like this, we should not be making decisions. She suggested asking what a rational person would do. I told her that I gratuitously forget everything "bad" that AH has done to me, our marriage, kids, etc., so I can't even figure out what a rational person would do. I suggested talking to her or my best friend, people who won't forget everything that's happended, and seeking their advice, and then waiting before making decisions.
I reconciled because I wasn't patient and I was selfish. I wanted my husband back. But, it's not really him and I see that now. They will always be addicts. Maybe you should give your recovery some more time before mixing in your AH/RAH?