"And yes, I will consult my estate attorney for his suggestions on language, but I want to do my own research so I have a menu of options. The problem with relying blindly on an attorney is that you don't have any yardstick to measure whether your attorney has done a good job. If s/he hasn't, it won't be apparent til too late to do anything about it."
An attornies job is to explain the law and the ramifications of said laws, and defend your position in court...that's it...we each are responsible to make the business decisions pertaining to our life. So, I agree with your thinking.