My son has been missing 8 years, lost in his addiction somewhere.
My will does not including him for mostly the reasons given above, it might kill him. I don't feel guilty about that at all, we probably spent what might be his share, on taking care of him over the years or by what he stole from us to sell for drugs.
This is the kind of question that may have a different answer for each of us. It just doesn't make sense to me to leave money to an active addict, so I won't even consider it.
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