Welcome to SR, though sorry for what has brought you here.
FWIW, I'm what is considered a "double winner" - I'm both a recovering addict (RA) and a recovering codie (codependent) who has loved ones who are A's (addicts/alcoholics).
SR has been a huge help to me in both my recoveries, though this forum is my home. I tried to "fix" the A's in my life and ended up using to get over the fact that I couldn't do it.
I suggest you read around on other posts, and the "stickies" - the posts at the top of the forum. You aren't alone, and that is a pretty wierd feeling..good and bad, but we are here to walk this through with you.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy