It's hard to help my wounds heal when he just keeps cutting new ones. How do you detach from someone who has no purpose or goal other than driving you crazy when he is drunk? I can ignore him all I want, I can pretend not to care, and I can really not care but the fact is I still have to listen to his crap, watch him act like an idiot, and try to protect my daughter from the tornado that he creates. I'm not sure detachment while staying together is for me. Maybe I jyst need to do more research on what it means and better ways to implement it.