Lynn, I know it seems a little counter intuitive, but focus on you.
Focus on your recovery.
It's my experience that once we get that down, everything else tends to fall into place...sometimes it may not be what we expect, but it all pans out...
I think it's a good sign your BF is still there. Try not to focus on him so much...he'll make up his own mind...(I know there's an element of risk there...but try just to let it go...have faith....)
work on staying sober...thats the best gift I think you can give to this relationship
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