Originally Posted by
WishingWell 
What do you feel is wrong with him saying "he responded with "I hate when you bring that stuff up, it makes me feel like crap" "? Shame is a huge part of the life of an addict.
I don't feel that there is really anything wrong with his response. I just can't ever tell if it is a honest answer or just a tactic to manipulate and guilt me into shutting up and leaving him alone. He never wants to talk about it and I guess it makes me angry because he should have to deal with the conscience of his actions. I might be taking "detachment" the wrong way, I seem to be struggling with the concept and never really fully understood plus I have to be careful not to set him off and cause more chaos. He knows that I'm not going to let the house turn into a crazy disgusting mess, that I am always going to take care of our daughter and all the pets. I can't drop those balls and he knows it. I'm actually reading codependent no more right now.