thank you everyone, no he is not in a program becuase he stoped the drugs, but...then again i dont know. I HATE THAT I LOVE A MAN THAT CANT CHANGE..."a lepord does not change his spots" I want to love him and be happy and have a family but it will never be the happy family i always dreamed of. I hate to think i walked away from love, but i just want him to change things.... he says he will but it always goes around and around.