Congrats on your sobriety and working your program. Keep up the good work!
Now, grab an Al-Anon brochure, leave it for him, and wish for the best. Like you, he has to find his own way. Ignore the rest...
Early marriage is hard enough; you have a double whammy with this on top of it all. Try to have some patience. Do rely on your sponsor and your program right now.
Good luck to you both,
~T