Thank you Amy. Your response means a lot to me. I knew when I wrote that I was going to contact the hospital that a) I likely wouldn't and b) it's not my call to make. I was just mad and upset (still am). I've worked in and around the mental health field for almost 20 yrs now...I've see this scenario and sometimes how it's played out. I've just never experienced it up close and personal. It's been a huge education for me on many levels.
At this point I know I need to detach...to the point of no contact until and unless he completes rehab. Actually doing that will be another challenge I'm sure. Any suggestions re: how to successfully orchestrate "no contact" is welcome.
SR is such an insightful, knowledgeable and supportive community and I am thankful that SR exists and grateful for all the information and support available here.
Good Roads,
Chick