PDX,
How awful!!! You have to dig deep and do what's best for you. I hear a lot of worrying about him right now. GOODNESS gracious, you are about to give birth to his child and he's not worrying about you too much. I'm just so sorry. Maybe he can get himself in some sort of shape to be there for you and the birth of his child. I don't know. I'm just so terribly sorry that you are in this position and have to go through this, particularly at this time.
Is there anyway that you can get some one you love and who loves you to come and be with you?
Now is not the time to protect him by not telling your family and friends what is going on. And don't feel like you don't deserve someone to be there or that you are not entitled to ask for help because you feel responsible for the situation. If you think there is any chance someone can come and be with you, reach out and ask.
I am sending positive thoughts your way. My heart is aching for you.
Hugs,
MamaKit