I think a lot of us lied to a lot of people and mostly to the ones closest to us and really ourselves till Step 1 or your own way of recognizing you are an alcoholic. Seems no matter the path be it AA or AVRT etc the bottom line is being honest is the requirement to move forward.
I had to start with being honest with myself. That can be a tough one and I don't expect trust from others till I have walked the walk and live as an honest person to myself and to others. Tough slogging but its the only way I can see to get some peace.
Best of luck