Step one: You have no control over ...
Your life has become unmanagable
One day at a time
First things first
Keep it simple
Do what you can do TODAY
Decide what it is that you do have control over and make adjustments where possible (first things first)
Offer up the rest to your HP and have faith that all is going according to plan.
STOP (start turning over problems)and THINK
Have you read just today's readings in the Al-Anon One Day at a Time books?
Can't find them?
How about this?
http://www.sygnetswans.com/alanon.html