(((((((((((((Gracey)))))))))))))))) "hey, your right, he is a jerk - you have NOOOOO reason to feel guilty leaving him". In all sincerity, sometimes when I read your posts - my blood starts to boil! How dare he say that he is getting Bree, no matter what - I don't know about Michigan, but in Texas they are not real wild about giving custody to alcoholics, when there is a sober, loving mother to take custody - he is insane, and I wouldn't even argue it with him one bit - just let him thinks what he wants, but you would have no problem at all getting custody. Just let your lawyer work it out and JOURNAL...DOCUMENT EVERYTHING! I hate when I hear of people saying sh** like that, that's just insane - and it's a blatant threat to try and make you re-think what you are planning on doing. As far as your family goes - again, that's just insane. So what if one is ********, has been married three time, or in the hospital...what the hell does that have to do with you, other than that you have a lot of other issues and concerns and don't have the desire or energy to focus 100% on a grown man who can't function properly because he is an alcoholic. I know he does not drink anymore though, but you talk to a lawyer and explain what your life has been like. Document as much as you can remember. Gosh, I don't mean to sound so angry, but I know what a darling, caring person you are and how much you love your kids...and when I visualize him I just picture this big Troll! I know that I am the last person to give advise and you'd be wise to do the opposite of what I'd say...but, honestly, I'd stop any and ALL conversations with him about custody, your family, his family - I'd document (I know I've said that 100 times now) anything and everything, and go see a lawyer. I'm so sorry sweetie...and feel guilty?? no way - look how awful he has treated your other 2 children...should they have to grow up feeling second best to Bree? (not that it's her fault at all - in fact, it probably makes her or will make her feel guilty in the end). Okay, I'll stop - I love ya sweetie...and I'm just so sorry!