Self acceptance, and looking after myself. I was always a perfectionist and wanted to please everybody. Ended up nearly ruining my life and truth was neither I nor anyone else was better off.
It doesn't mean I don't care or think about others. But I had to learn to rebuild some of the most basic boundaries when I got sober, and to recognize that they aren't always a bad thing, boundaries can be healthy, for both parties involved.
My religious beliefs have also affected my perceptions on this but that's a personal subject.