How is your recovery coming along? Are you attending Alanon meetings? Have you read Codependent No More? Opended your own checking account? Preparing for your future?
I ask because it is imperative that you get healthy and whole, he doesn't care about lines in the sand, he'll just take his foot and run them out.
He is either in recovery, not drinking or he is not...that's it. Very few...less than 10% recover for life. This is his life, his battle to fight, nothing you say will make a difference. He already knows what you think.
Take care of you,