Thanks for the tip on the book. Yeah, I spent so much time being in denial and then being extremely angry about how hard I fell when I realized the extent of his betrayals and now I'm at a place where good memories creep in and I don't know what to do with them. They feel like hauntings because they don't make sense in relation to the sheer awfulness of the bad stuff. It's a mental leap to reconcile both the good and the bad I guess. I will take a look at the book!