Originally Posted by
PohsFriend 
So I have some conflicting goals here - on the one hand I have to be vigilant because her disease requires it.
Actually - You don't have to be vigilant. She does. Its her disease. It is not yours to manage. It's hers.
You say you love her so much. How about showing that to her by giving her the
respect of being a fellow adult who can manage herself, while you focus on managing yourself *said in kindness*
Smacked is right, and although I know it came across as blunt and almost rude, Cyranoak was right in your other thread.
Doing nothing is always an option, and one that is far less drama-filled and stress-inducing. And you might be surprised at what she does when you stop doing it all for her.