Yep, self absorbed and self centered! I do believe most A truly feel horrible for their behavior but it doesn't keep them from doing it over and over and over! When you hurt people and treat them poorly...it's going to make you feel like crap if you have any feelings at all! It's a cycle ....hurt people, embarrassed, drink more to numb the pain, start over to peat and repeat again! I saw so many tears and quilt but there is a point you have to stop. You have to look at your life! I had to bc the pain was unbearably ...love or no love! The people that loved me hurt watching me get hurt over and over! I feel for an active A bc we all fight some type of battles and but it is no excuse to accept unacceptable behavior over and over! Sorry, I certainly do not mean to come across harsh! I am still hurt and anger! I am certainly not wo flaws!