tjp, I wasn't sure if the questions under the quote were a part of the signature line, or were asked by you. If they were a part of the signature line, then I read the entire thing as DISCOURAGING codependency, not encouraging it. Because for those people who respond, "Yes, I would sacrifice more," and "Yes, I would sacrifice everything," the last question is a real eye-opener. For most of us, if we asked ourselves, have your sacrifices helped your loved one find recovery, the answer would be "no." And realizing this would presumably make one realize that being willing to sacrifice more, or everything, doesn't make sense, given the futility of the sacrifice.