Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
Whatever I sacrificed of myself towards my AXGF's recovery didn't make any difference to her. She wasn't in recovery, and she's Borderline, so she was going to do whatever her internal beat was telling her to do.
But I think crashing and burning taught me an invaluable lesson. The addict, at the end of the day, doesn't care about your investment in them, or the price you pay for trying to help them. They're incapable of acknowledging and appreciating all you do for them, and if they say otherwise, then they're lying. The addict's going to do whatever the addict's going to do, and the best thing for a loved one to do is to accept it, wish them well, get out of their way and protect yourself.
Just because they're going down in flames doesn't mean you have to.