He is lying to you, mutiply what he has told you by 4 you maybe a little closer to the truth.
This is his problem to resolve, not yours. Take some time to work on you, your codependency.
He is not an RA if he is still drinking and not in a solid recovery program, his babble about hating AA and any other structured recovery program is all BS, I have heard that a thousand times on this board...it is all an excuse, if he wants recovery there is a program out there for him, and, it is his responsibility to find it...not yours.