Originally Posted by
LoveMeNot 
I am doing my best to stay out of it - telling myself "it's his problem to fix and it's their relationship" but I don't want her to cut off her nose to spite her face either.
Addiction has done enough damage. I want healing, forgiveness, and love!!
Any advice welcomed.
So very common for children of alcoholics/addicts to grow up feeling that they were not worthy of normal. Your husband can't fix her anymore than she could fix her bio parents or you or anyone else, for that matter.
Her reactions to her bio parents' addictions are understandable and her's to own and resolve, if and when she wants to do so.
The transition from minor to adulthood is tough on most parents.