Originally Posted by
ZiggyB 
Hi there,
It's been almost 2 months since my breakup, it was a really nasty one full of his anger and verbally abusive behavior. I also got some sessions with a therapist and have done some reading on codependency and al-anon, which is helpful.
The biggest challenges for me so far have been dealing with the aftermath of the breakup, the loneliness and anxiety have sometimes made me doubt my own sanity and whether or not I made a good decision. I think it will take me a while to repair my self-esteem as the things that he said to me keep richocheting around in my head like a ping pong ball.
I think the important thing is to remember that you could never control him and his drinking, I'm sure they are teaching you all about that in al-anon.
Anyway you are young and I'm sure you will do fine, keep taking care of yourself and get whatever help you need.
-z
A book I am reading right now has been a godsend! It's called: "A Journey from Abandonment to Healing" by Susan Anderson. It put soo much in perspective. The shock, the anger, the panic...all of it. I recommend it to everyone. I woke up the next day after devouring it with a sense of peace. I still have my moments, it's only been a month, but, my God, this is the book I had been searching for for so long to help me understand why I couldn't let him go for so many years. This book gave me so much clarity.