On the good side, I have to add -- yesterday, the new man in my life was helping the kids with homework while I cooked dinner, and they were pleasantly bantering at the kitchen table while working.
What I have now that I never had before is normalcy.
And the advantage of having lived through an alcoholic marriage is that what most people take for granted -- such as that scene I described -- it just makes my heart swell. I am so grateful for normalcy.