Originally Posted by lizatola

You know, in the counseling sesson my AH said, "Well, you married your father, you just didn't realize how much like him I was." Then the therapist said, "You did choose him." To which I said, "Yes, but when I married him, he had quit drinking and was committing to church and other positive changes in his life. I didn't realize how bad the alcohol problem was and I was young and naive and in love and I thought that church friends and positive influences would be enough to keep us on that growth path." I was wrong, but I didn't have a crystal ball and I couldn't predict that his negative patterns would get worse over time and that he'd pretty much turn his back on church, etc.