Is this counselor experienced in addiction issues-other than his own? I went into counseling with the expectation of fixing my marriage. Our MC said that whether we stayed together or apart, good counseling meant we would each leave being healthier human beings. I was so frustrated because the drinking was not confronted as something that needed to stop. We talked about how it affected the marriage. When my husband said he planned to continue drinking, it was my turn to talk about if I could continue living that way. My husband felt this was a safe place to say certain things he had trouble expressing before. I started to see the "real" him and that he was no longer invested in the relationship. I still wonder what another approach to counseling would have been like and where we would be now.