Nici,
i can tottaly relate to you. although i have lost hope of helping my dad. i live in windsor, ontario,and there is a good mens detox here.i don't know if that would help you any. but it is here if you want more info. what i do suggest is help, this really hurts and its hard to stand back and watch and detatch, but sometimes its almost helpless to assist. my father is a drug addict and my mom is an alcoholic. and this is all new to me in a sense, though i can look back in time and now see that both my parents have been alcoholics, my whole life. the drugs juust came in when the alcohol just wasn't enough. i am behind you 100% if you ever want to talk, you can private message me. though i am not far into my own recovery i have started my road to recovery and feel great about it!
I wish you luck, and i am always here on the boards. just keep in mind when helping becomes overwhelming, don't be scared to back away!
much love to you!