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So, xah hubbie was MIA for 2.5 months. Texted me unapolgetic "hey I want to see our son"
I contacted my lawyer, and we have a plan in place. BUT this plan will take up to 6 months. So, today my darling addict was to see his son. Before seeing his son, he was to call me and discuss our son's emotional well being. I specifically told him that he couldn't see his son until he did this. Did he call? Nope. He texted me 4 minutes before the cut off time and said "where r we meeting". I told him it is a no go bc he didn't call. You know what? He said he did call me and left a message. This was true. A week ago he called and left me a crying message telling me he was a failure, I'm beautiful, he missed and loved me...blah blah blah. And at the end of this message he said "ill call you next week to discuss our son". Well, I never replied to this sob fest. I told him he was lying. Then he told me to tell our son the truth...he was away at work for 2.5 months. This by the way made me think of the thread lies they tell us. Someone wrote "and he stood up to tell everyone he had to go and finish putting gas in my car" this "away at work" lie INFURIATED me. He still can't admit to the fact that he is on drugs? It is so obvious. I lost it and told him that he is a liar and how dare he insult my intelligence and his sons. He got very angry and responded "don't text me, I can't stand you, you are a c*&t. I was pissed and hurt, but I didn't respond. Then he texted me and told me that he was going to talk bad about me to our son because that's what I'm doing. This couldn't be farther from the truth. I am there for my son telling him his father loves him, showing him pictures and saying a prayer for him every night. Well, the addict pushed my buttons and won. I didn't respond via text. I just sent him an email telling him he is full of it and that I will not put up with his crap anymore.

This is exactly why we need to talk before he sees our son. I never know what I'm getting with him. I feel like I have to tip toe and do everything he wants or deal with his anger. I'm not backing down on this though bc it is my sons mental heallth. And no, legally I can't block him or deny him to see his son. I am abiding by the rules, so I have to communicate with him. Like I said, I have a plan in place. It will just take some time. I'm just pissed.

How do you train yourself not to react? Not to get angry. Not to be hurt. He has such a hold on my emotions. For example, I spent all day thinking about it. Its annoying. I pray one day I I can simply respond when necessary and then let it go.

Bottom line, he called crying saying he was a changed man. Then, a week later didn't do what was expected. Didn't like I followed thru on my word, and didn't like I wouldn't lie to my son and accept his lie thaT daddy was away on biz trip. He lost it.

He's crazy and immature.